5 Key Questions To Ask Yourself For Personal Development
Have you been thinking about your personal development? Many people don’t know where they stand with their personal development. They don’t know how to tell if they’re staying on track or if they’ve wandered off the path.
In this article, we’ll cover the five key questions that you can ask yourself to check on your personal development and keep it going in the right direction.
1) Do you like yourself?
This is the most important first question that you could possibly ask yourself when it comes to personal development. Personal development is all about you; it doesn’t matter what others think about you. Your personal development is all about making you a better person for yourself.
If you don’t like yourself, your personal development is not going in the right direction or has stagnated. The whole point of personal development is to make you into the person you want to be that you like. If you answered no to this question, it’s time to regroup, refocus, and start over.
2) Do you feel like you have morally good views and practices?
Morality is subjective, but it’s important that you stay true to your own moral compass. If you feel like there’s something shady in your beliefs or practices, you need to work on it to get back on track for positive personal development.
This question will help you practice analyzing your behaviors, decisions, and actions on a daily basis. We recommend asking yourself this while meditating, allowing yourself to closely examine your whole day in great detail. This will help you more closely see where you need to adjust to continue with personal development and become the person you want to be.
3) Are you pleased with the decisions you’ve made?
Part of personal development involves your happiness. You have to be happy with the person you are, the person you’re becoming, and the life you’re choosing to lead. All of your efforts towards personal development mean absolutely nothing if you’re not happy.
Take time regularly to reflect on your life and all the decisions you’ve made along the way. Are you happy with the career path you’ve chosen? Does the life you’ve built for yourself so far make you happy? Does the person you are make you happy? If there was one decision you could make that would make you happier, what would it be?
4) How do others view you and react to you?
While it’s important that your motivations for personal development lie within yourself, part of how we judge who we are as people is against those around us. We use their reactions to our behavior and their opinions of us to help us judge how we view ourselves.
Sometimes we choose to throw these judgments out, like if we find the source to not be credible, but others we take them into consideration to either be proud of where we are or make adjustments.
5) Where do you want to go?
While it’s important to not focus solely on your desired end result and enjoy the journey, it’s still important to have a loose goal in mind. You want to know what you’re working towards, but you don’t want to have a hard cut off point. The whole point of personal development is that it’s a life-long journey. You don’t reach the end goal until you’ve completed the entire journey.
If you have a hard goal and don’t keep yourself open to expanding beyond that, your personal development will stagnate at that point. You won’t keep growing and developing, you’ll simply peak. It’s important to make goals and achieve them, but don’t stop once you get them, make a new goal.
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