What Are Your Behavioral Defects?

What Are Your Behavioral Defects?

What Are Your Behavioral Defects?

We all have faults and flaws, but have you thought about the possibility of yours lying in your behavior? Behavioral defects are more common than you might think. In this article, we’re going to explore the common signs of several behavioral defects so you can figure out how to identify them in yourself.

It’s important to keep in mind that self-diagnosing behavioral defects and behavioral disorders are two different things with a very fine line between them. Be very careful to not self-diagnose yourself. If you think something is more serious than can be fixed with simple behavioral adjustment, seek the help of a trained and licensed professional.

 

 

Oversensitivity

Oversensitivity is a very common behavioral defect. If you find that you get extremely worked up over the littlest thing, you might have a problem with oversensitivity. If every little disruption seems like the end of the world, you’re likely dealing with oversensitivity.

 

How to identify it

● Overreactions to simple problems

● Feels like you have a catastrophe regularly (daily/weekly)

● It doesn’t take much of anything to make you cry

● You’re always mad at someone

● Everyone (or the universe) is out to get you

 

What to do about it

● Try to calm yourself down

● Remind yourself of the smallness of the problem

● Think of solutions

● Keep in mind that it’s not a big deal and it’ll all be ok

● When you feel this happening, honestly question if you’re overreacting

 

Anger

We all experience anger sometimes, but it becomes pretty clear when anger is your behavioral defect. If you find yourself reaching impossible levels of anger at the slightest thing, you clearly have an anger problem. If you tend to react to violently or lash out as a response to most of your emotions, you likely have an anger problem.

 

How to identify it

● Most problems or emotions sent you spiraling into anger - it’s one of the only ways you know to express emotions

● Everything makes you angry

● You respond to things going wrong by lashing out violently or destroying things

What to do about it

● Keep yourself calm

● Try new calming hobbies and activities like crocheting, coloring, or yoga

● Seek professional help - anger management, therapy, etc.

 

 

Too Distant

Sometimes a person’s behavioral defect will be their lack of emotional response, rather than an exaggerated emotional response. If you find yourself distancing yourself from emotions, running away from problems rather than dealing with them, or refusing to get close to anyone, your behavioral defect might be keeping yourself distant.

 

How to identify it

● You refuse to experience emotions

● You run away from problems and/or emotional situations

● You keep yourself from getting close to others

● You don’t allow yourself to feel or experience feelings

 

What to do about it

● Push yourself to stick around and deal with problems and/or emotional situations

● Practice experiencing your emotions and identifying what you’re feeling

● Open up and allow people in - remember, it’s okay to be vulnerable.

 

Are you worried you may have a behavioral defect? The ones we’ve listed above are the three most common, but there are many others you may be dealing with. If you’re concerned about these defects or a potential behavioral disorder, we highly recommend seeing your doctor or making an appointment with a therapist or counselor.

We can’t warn you off self-diagnosing psychological conditions enough. When you read the descriptions of these conditions, your brain jumps to the most generic of symptoms that most everyone could say they experience and gets convinced you have whatever it is. You need a diagnosis from a professional to be sure and get the right treatment that will actually be effective.

 

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Personal Development 101

Personal Development 101

Personal Development 101

Personal development is an essential part of life. It’s how we get from point A to point B; it’s the journey that makes us who we are. But how do you work on your personal development and hasten and improve it?

In this article, we’ll explore the topic of personal development: how you can speed up the process, improve your personal development, and make yourself a better person.

 

Let go of your ideals

One of the biggest things that tends to hold people back on their personal development journey is getting hung up on ideals. They strive to achieve this image of perfection that they have in their head: the perfect partner, the perfect job, the perfect house, the perfect family, the perfect them, the perfect clothes - you get the idea.

The problem with this is that nothing is perfect and nothing will ever fit your ideals to a tee. You have to be willing to go with the flow and make compromises. You can’t just dump everything that doesn’t meet your perfect ideals; nothing in life is perfect.

This realization is one of the first and most important steps toward positive personal development.

It’s not always going to be positive

 

The journey to personal development is full of ups and downs, trial and error, devastation and celebration. You aren’t going to win every time. You’re not always going to be proud of yourself. There are going to be times when you’re upset with the decisions you made or find out that you’ve been wrong.

 

It’s not always going to be negative either. You’ll achieve accomplishments worthy of celebration and praise. You’ll be proud of yourself and who you’ve become. The journey to personal development is filled with both positives and negatives, that’s what makes it so interesting and challenging.

 

It’s all about the journey; you’ll see the destination when you get there

 

You have to focus on the journey that lies before you, not the destination you want. The journey to personal development is full of crazy twists and turns and will take you to new places you never dreamed possible. You can’t possibly know the destination (the person you will become) before you’ve gotten there.

Enjoy the journey - take it all in and remember every part of the journey. You can worry about the destination when you get there. Let yourself become who you’re going to become. The journey to personal development is a way of life; it’s never finished. Just sit back and enjoy the ride.

Don’t be afraid of change

Personal development and growth are all about change. Along the journey, you’ll have to adjust to new ideas and behaviors, challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone and learn new things.

As you adapt and adjust, you’ll find yourself growing and becoming a better person. You have to welcome change and be excited about it. These changes, even the ones that seem negative, will help you to become a better person.

 

Growing and developing is an essential part of life. Your personal development will take you to the best version of you possible. It’s important to remember, though, that it’s not about the destination, it’s all about the journey. It’ll be filled with ups and downs, positives and negatives. The important thing is that you stick to it and stay focused on personal development.

 

We hope this article has inspired you take your personal development seriously and work to improve yourself through your journey. Remember: it’s all about the journey; you’ll enjoy the destination when you get there. We wish you luck and strength as you undertake this challenge.

Key Steps To A Personal Development Plan

Key Steps To A Personal Development Plan

Key Steps To A Personal Development Plan

 

Do you want to encourage more personal development in your life? Have you thought about constructing a personal development plan?

 

A personal development plan, like any other sort of self-improvement plan, is a plan you put into place to encourage and guide you through your personal development. This plan will help you track your progress and ensure you’re achieving all the goals you set out to achieve.

In this article, we’ll provide you with the key steps necessary to construct a personal development plan.

 

Set goals

You can’t construct any sort of self-improvement plan without setting goals. The goals for your personal development plan should be related to personal growth. Whenever you set goals for yourself, you have to be sure that they are achievable and that you give yourself a deadline. This will ensure you actually achieve them in a timely manner.

 

Examples of goals

● Developing and sticking to a positive sleep routine for a month

● Wake up at 6 am and workout every day

● Learn about balanced nutrition and plan meals

 

Track your progress

Tracking your progress is essential to see what’s working and what’s not, knowing where you stand in your personal development, and keeping yourself motivated. Rewarding yourself for achieving your goals can be excellent motivation to keep you working towards the next one. It can also help to keep you on the right track along your path to self-improvement.

 

Be open to change

If you’re going to construct a personal development plan and actually take it on, you’ll have to be open to change. Sometimes you won’t make as much progress as you had hoped you would and other times you’ll make way more; you have to be flexible and willing to go with the flow. You have to change your plans to make it work for you as you go.

Cut yourself some slack

You’re human; you’re going to mess up and fall off the path every now and again. You have to cut yourself some slack and be willing to forgive yourself for your shortcomings. Learn from the mistakes, forgive yourself, let it go, and move forward. The longer you get hung up on it, the more time you waste that could be spent making you a better person and working on your personal development.

 

Keep a journal

Journaling can help you more closely track your progress as you work your way along this journey, and identify any problems in your behavior, actions, or decisions. Journaling can make it easier for you to recount what you do throughout the day so you can better assess your behavior to make adjustments when necessary.

You can read back over your journal later to more accurately analyze what went on during a particular time, refresh your mind of decisions you made, and remember what mistakes you’ve made and the lessons you’ve learned from them. It can help you keep tabs on your progress as you go.

 

If you want to work on your personal development, the best thing to do is make a plan. If you stick to your plan and follow our few key steps, you’ll be set up for success. The road to personal development is a long and arduous one, but the benefits are far more than worth it. Stay the course and reap your many benefits.

We hope this article has inspired you to develop your very own personal development plan and work to improve yourself. The harder you work to improve yourself the better the results will be. We hope you stick it out and see it through to the end.

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Can You Really Change Yourself?

Can You Really Change Yourself?

Can You Really Change Yourself?

There are lots of theories out there about people’s ability to change themselves. Some think it’s entirely impossible, others think it can be possible in small increments, and others think it’s possible with hard work.

In this article, we’ll discuss whether or not you can really change yourself. We’ll also include some helpful tips to better yourself.

 

Can you change yourself?

The short answer to this question is yes, you can change yourself. It takes hard work, diligent effort, focus, dedication, and strength to change yourself, but it is possible. The thing is, it’s far from easy. Changing yourself takes a lot of diligent, focused effort. It isn’t something you can just try half-baked.

The road to changing yourself will be long and arduous. The main thing to keep in mind is to not give up and stay true to the path. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you slip from the course, just be sure you get back on the right path.

How do you change yourself?

Changing yourself, as we said, isn’t easy. If you decide to try to change yourself, you have to make the commitment and stick to it. You have to hold yourself accountable and make a diligent effort. You can’t give up halfway through and you can’t expect to make any headway if you’re half-assing it.

The following exercises and practices can help you implement change that sticks around in your life.

 

Develop new habits

The first way you can work to change yourself is by working to develop new habits. Make the changes you want to make your new habits. Practice them every day, multiple times a day. Before you know it, they’ll be second-nature to you.

 

Example

If you want to change the fact that you’re lazy, make a habit of doing one positive bit of work a day. This could be something for your job or for cleaning your house; something productive and positive are the only requirements.

Practice identifying the bad behaviors or faults

The first step to fixing the bad behaviors or learning to deal with your faults is identifying what those are. Spend some time meditating each day, analyzing all of the experiences and interactions you’ve had. Try to find the problem areas and address them reasonably; don’t beat yourself up, that’s helping no one.

 

Be open to criticism

Part of how you change yourself is by listening to critiques from loved ones. You have to get these from people who truly love you that you trust want only the best for you. Take their criticisms and really think about and review them: could you stand to improve in that area? What might help you do that?

 

Challenge yourself

Each day, give yourself a positive new challenge to help you reach your goal of affecting your desired change. No one can make you change but you and you have to be responsible for motivating yourself, pushing and challenging yourself in order to get there.

 

Example

Let’s say the behavior you’re trying to change is erring on the side of being a hermit. You could challenge yourself to go to a new public place each day or talk to a new person each day.

You can truly change yourself, but it won’t be easy. It takes diligent effort, dedication, and a lot of time and hard work to actually affect change in your life. Sometimes, it may even be emotionally painful and taxing, but you have to just push to see it through to the end. You have to be your own motivation, judge, and counselor. You have to hold yourself accountable, stick with it, and see it through to the end, come hell or high water.

 

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Assessing Your Need For Personal Development

Assessing Your Need For Personal Development

Assessing Your Need For Personal Development

Personal development is a crucial part of life; it’s what gets you from being that awkward teen full of mistakes to the wise adult you are today. But how do you know where you stand in your personal development? How do assess whether you need to work on it harder or keep on the path you’re already on?

In this article, we’re going to explore personal development and help you identify if you need to work on it.

Do you make decisions for yourself?

One of the first ways to tell if you need to revisit your personal development or not is by analyzing how you make decisions. Do you make them for yourself or do you rely heavily on the thoughts and opinions of others?

There’s a difference between getting the advice and input of others on decisions you made and relying on others to make the decision for you. The first is a reasonable course of action for anyone making a big or heavy decision. The second, however, is a sign that you’re not going well on your path to personal development.

 

Do you like yourself?

While the goal of personal development is to make you a better person, the motivation has to be rooted in you. It’s your idea of “better,” the person you want yourself to be, and what you want out of your life. If you don’t like yourself, you’re not on the right track with your personal development.

If you answered no to this question, ask yourself these follow-up questions to help you identify where you went wrong and what you need to adjust and correct:

 

● What specifically about yourself do you not like?

● What small action each day would help change that?

● What goal can you set for yourself that, once achieved, would help you like yourself more?

● Why do you think it is that you don’t like yourself?

● What major change would need to take place for you to like yourself?

From here, you can develop a plan and course of action to help rectify this problem and get you on the right track to personal development.

 

What accomplishments toward personal development have you made so far?

While you don’t want to focus exclusively on your goals, you do need to measure your progress in some way to make sure you know if you’re on the right track or not. Spend some time reflecting on your personal development thus far.

 

What goals have you set for yourself? Have you accomplished them? What goals do you still have for yourself? Are you close to achieving any of them? Determining the answers to these questions will help you to assess if you need to work to improve your personal development or not.

 

Why should you assess your need for personal development?

As we said before, personal development is a crucial part of life. It’s what helps to make you the best person you possibly can be. Taking the time to assess your need for personal development helps keep you on track and gets you to the good person you want to be. It helps you take stock of your behavior, actions, and decisions and make sure that you’re being the person you want to be.

Personal development is an important part of life, but it doesn’t just happen. It’s something you actively have to work at to improve and keep track of your progress so you can keep up what’s working and cut out what’s not. As you assess your personal development, consider how you can work to improve your personal development and achieve your desired results.

 

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5 Key Questions To Ask Yourself For Personal Development

5 Key Questions To Ask Yourself For Personal Development

5 Key Questions To Ask Yourself For Personal Development

Have you been thinking about your personal development? Many people don’t know where they stand with their personal development. They don’t know how to tell if they’re staying on track or if they’ve wandered off the path.

In this article, we’ll cover the five key questions that you can ask yourself to check on your personal development and keep it going in the right direction.

1) Do you like yourself?

This is the most important first question that you could possibly ask yourself when it comes to personal development. Personal development is all about you; it doesn’t matter what others think about you. Your personal development is all about making you a better person for yourself.

If you don’t like yourself, your personal development is not going in the right direction or has stagnated. The whole point of personal development is to make you into the person you want to be that you like. If you answered no to this question, it’s time to regroup, refocus, and start over.

2) Do you feel like you have morally good views and practices?

Morality is subjective, but it’s important that you stay true to your own moral compass. If you feel like there’s something shady in your beliefs or practices, you need to work on it to get back on track for positive personal development.

This question will help you practice analyzing your behaviors, decisions, and actions on a daily basis. We recommend asking yourself this while meditating, allowing yourself to closely examine your whole day in great detail. This will help you more closely see where you need to adjust to continue with personal development and become the person you want to be.

3) Are you pleased with the decisions you’ve made?

Part of personal development involves your happiness. You have to be happy with the person you are, the person you’re becoming, and the life you’re choosing to lead. All of your efforts towards personal development mean absolutely nothing if you’re not happy.

Take time regularly to reflect on your life and all the decisions you’ve made along the way. Are you happy with the career path you’ve chosen? Does the life you’ve built for yourself so far make you happy? Does the person you are make you happy? If there was one decision you could make that would make you happier, what would it be?

4) How do others view you and react to you?

While it’s important that your motivations for personal development lie within yourself, part of how we judge who we are as people is against those around us. We use their reactions to our behavior and their opinions of us to help us judge how we view ourselves.

Sometimes we choose to throw these judgments out, like if we find the source to not be credible, but others we take them into consideration to either be proud of where we are or make adjustments.

5) Where do you want to go?

While it’s important to not focus solely on your desired end result and enjoy the journey, it’s still important to have a loose goal in mind. You want to know what you’re working towards, but you don’t want to have a hard cut off point. The whole point of personal development is that it’s a life-long journey. You don’t reach the end goal until you’ve completed the entire journey.

If you have a hard goal and don’t keep yourself open to expanding beyond that, your personal development will stagnate at that point. You won’t keep growing and developing, you’ll simply peak. It’s important to make goals and achieve them, but don’t stop once you get them, make a new goal.

 

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4 Personal Issues Everyone Needs To Work On

4 Personal Issues Everyone Needs To Work On

4 Personal Issues Everyone Needs To Work On

 

We all have problems that we need to work on. Many of us deal with the same exact problems and have no idea that anyone around us is also dealing with them. While the exact details may differ slightly, the overall gist of the issue is universal.

 

In this article, we’re going to explore the four personal issues that everyone needs to work on in their lives. We’ll describe the personal issue and provide you with potential ways to resolve it. The most important thing for you to glean from this article is that you’re not alone in dealing with your issues and there is a solution.

 

1) Communication Issues

We all can be guilty of miscommunicating or communicating poorly at some point in our lives. The best way to prevent this or at least know how to quickly solve communication problems should they occur is to work on your communication skills. The following steps will help improve your communication skills:

1. Actively Listen

Listen to the problem at hand actively. Ask open-ended questions to ensure you understand and the person knows you’re listening. Be as objective as possible when listening to their side and don’t get defensive. Let them express themselves and have the opportunity to finish saying what they have to say.

2. Consider Solutions

Discuss the options available for potential solutions to the problem. You should both agree on the solution, so be sure to list multiple courses of actions. To resolve this problem, both parties will have to be happy with the solution.

3. Compromise

Everyone has to compromise sometimes to get along. The ultimate goal of resolving your conflict is to find a solution that makes everyone happy. Not everyone can get their exact way at the same time, so that’s where compromising comes in. If everyone can get enough of what they want to make everyone happy, the conflict will get resolved quickly.

 

2) Financial Issues

If you find that no matter how much money you make, it never seems to be enough to let you break even, you might struggle with budgeting your money. Many people across the world struggle with financial issues, whether it be due to inability to budget, misunderstanding of financing, or overgenerosity. Financial issues can be quite debilitating and can easily destroy your life. If you’re concerned you may have financial issues, you can see a financial advisor to help you figure out a reasonable solution.

 

3) Psychological Issues

Everyone has something they’re in need of dealing with psychologically, though the severity will vary. The first step in dealing with psychological issues is to admit that you have a problem and may need some help resolving it.

There’s no shame in going to a counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist to receive help with your struggles. It’s important to get help for these issues and work through past problems, rather than letting them fester inside.

4) Baggage Issues

Each person has some level of baggage they carry around, be it family drama, a past relationship gone sour, or some deep secret they’re holding onto. While we can’t always shed this baggage, we can learn how to cope with it effectively. You can let this baggage go so that it no longer has a negative effect on you, lessening its impact and effect.

 

Be forthcoming about your baggage. You have to be entirely open and honest about your baggage, what it is, how it affects you, etc. This will not only help you work through your baggage, but it will also help you stop letting your baggage get in the way of your happiness.

 

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