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How Saying Yes Can Change Your Life
‘We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.’ Max DePree.
Growth begins when you embrace change. A sure way of allowing growth in any area of your life is saying yes to opportunities that come your way, more so when they align with your vision.
If you complain a lot about where you are, you may need to check what opportunities you allowed to slip out of your grasp. There is a possibility that saying yes to them could have improved your life. We all get chances to change our circumstances. It is only the brave few who say yes, even in times of uncertainty that stand a chance at living a meaningful life.
When you have time to make a difference, how often do you embrace it without allowing your fear of failure to cause you to reject the opportunity?
Many limitations we see around us are self-imposed.
We spend most of the time listening to the voice of doubt and impossibility that we reject anything that challenges us to step out of our comfort zones. When faced with a chance to step into our rightful purpose, we question our readiness and procrastinate to a time we think we will be more prepared to take on such responsibility. This is how we take a step backward while our peers seem to take giant leaps forward. Sometimes, it is not because we are not ready or good enough or because we lack the right skills. It is about our willingness to try out something new and uncomfortable. It is about saying yes to opportunities that come knocking at our door.
If you feel you are stuck in a rut and your life is one long, boring routine, try looking out for opportunities that can change your situation. Say yes and take the lead on a project at your workplace. Embrace a career shift. Say yes to that refreshing trip you have been postponing. Go out more with friends and loved ones. Do whatever is in your power to change your circumstances.
Every successful person you admire has had to say yes to being challenged and stretched beyond their comfort zone. You do not have to say yes to every opportunity, but saying no shuts out the possibility of growth in your life. It limits your actions towards your dreams. It keeps you in stagnation because it does not allow you to explore what you can do when you are under pressure.
A simple yes makes all the difference.
When you say yes, you open yourself to endless possibilities. Saying no often ensures that many opportunities pass you by and you let most of them go without you even being aware. The opposite is true because saying yes alerts you to new challenges and opens new doors that can lead to the success you have always dreamt of. To reject an opportunity is to reject the invaluable lessons you can draw from it. It is to accept the circumstances you dislike. Say yes and see the world of possibilities that come your way.
Whenever you say yes, you give creativity a chance to come out and play. A yes mindset allows you to dream more. It adds vibrancy to the way you do things. As you brainstorm for a personal or work-related project you have agreed to, you get to discover certain skills you did not know you had. You learn alternative ways of approaching and solving problems.
Saying yes boosts your confidence, especially after it leads to success and positive transformation. It motivates you to say yes to intimidating projects. You become more positive about future endeavors, and you are likely to jump into things with more enthusiasm than skepticism. Success favors those who are willing to take risks and saying yes affords you a chance at that.
A yes mentality helps you get over your fear of failure. It silences your insecurities. When you say yes, with an understanding that it does not always guarantee a win, you handle failure differently. You embrace the setbacks you encounter as lessons learned and move on to the next project without beating yourself about it.
If you have ever been in the company of people who feel their life could have gone better, you will understand the value of saying yes more often. Regret is a product of always saying no, which leads to us turning down opportunities that have the power to change the course of our lives. Do not live a life of regret and constantly asking ‘What if?’
Say yes more often.
You do not have to say yes to everything. If an opportunity sparks your curiosity and has you wondering, follow it up with the relevant research before committing to it. Embrace the opportunities that align with your beliefs and add value to your life. Say yes to the opportunities that align with your vision and your goals.
What to say yes to.
Say yes to new challenges and adventures.
Say yes to endless possibilities.
Say yes to opportunities that lead to growth and betterment of self.
Say yes to the things that push you out of the comfort zone. After all, the bird only learns to fly when you push it out of the nest.
Say yes to transformative engagements with your peers inside and outside your work zone.
Say yes to things that break monotony in your life.
Say yes to any opportunity that makes life meaningful and worth living.
Say yes to things that make a difference in the lives of others.
Opportunities come and go and rarely do they knock twice. Do not court a life of regret by being too quick to say no. Embrace more yeses and see how that changes your life for the better.
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If you are looking a life in abundance, or even an abundant life, then you need to Break Ground That Has Been Broken.
There is something about the human instinct that insists that coming first is always best. For example, who ever remembers who comes third in the World Cup? But in business, it is very often the opposite which is true. I don't really want to get into a debate about who invented television but it appears to me that "Zworykin had a
patent, but Farnsworth had a picture...". In the end it was Zworykin and RCA paying Farnsworth the royalties, not the other way around. John Logie Baird also played a role, as did a Mexican and a few others. I don't want to labour the point but do you think any of 
those people mentioned made anywhere near the EUR268,900,000,000
that the global TV market is worth today? Look, I know 80 years is stretching a point but I think you can see my point. You don't have to be the inventor to make money. You don't even have to be 'first to the market'. Don't believe me? Well, I'll let John Boddie take it from here as he tells you about Apple (makers of iPod etc.):
"Apple Computer's recent domination of the digital music environment provides a surprising example of the disadvantages of being first to market. The innovative computer company that has become a leading force in the music space appears to have built a core strength around figuring out how to succeed at being a deliberate and very smart second (or even third) to market. Indeed, with such prominent early exceptions as the mouse and the graphical user interface, Apple has rarely succeeded because of an
appreciable first-to-market advantage. NEC beat Apple to the notebook computer, and Rio and Eiger Labs both had MP3 players long before the iPod was ever introduced. Sony's ACID, Cakewalk's Pyro,
and others offered desktop music-editing software before Apple ever released its option.
Despite this seeming disadvantage, Apple has managed to lead these markets because it has been able to initiate several new-market disruptions in music and computing, including iTunes, iMovie, and GarageBand, the company's eighteen-month-old music-editing software suite. In each case, Apple reached consumers unavailable to its predecessors though the virtues of good design, ease of use, clever marketing, and smart distribution. All these efforts were aimed at making sure potential customers understood the substantial differences between the first-to-market technologies that preceded GarageBand and the appealing, thoughtful technologies that Apple's product offers to attract inexperienced consumers. For its part, GarageBand affords a good example of how to create new-market disruptions with smartly designed technologies. Using GarageBand software, individuals with no previous recording and editing experience can create their own home-based music studios, where they can post new music and remix versions of older music
online."
I'm back. Get my point? Talk about abundance! Second to market will often win hands down. Especially when you have had a chance to have a look what is on offer and figured out a way to improve that offer. Go on, have a look around you. Do you see an existing service, product or business that could be improved upon? Could you do what they are doing better? Are they busy? With your improvements, could they (you) be busier?
That's the secret. Find something that is already successful and figure a way how to do it better. Then do it. Here endeth today's lesson (for me as well).
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When you are thinking about abundance in your life, then Don't Sell Ice Cream In Antarctica - Feed A Starving Crowd instead.
This sounds too simple to talk about it but trust me, the point is worth expanding upon. Take it from an 'ideas' man. I have so many ideas, I literally think of a new business model every day. Would some of them work? Undoubtedly. Would most of them fail? Undoubtedly. Which ones would work? Ah, there you have me. You see, they say that any successful business is about 1% inspiration, 99%
perspiration. I think they're right. The easy part is to come up with the idea, the hard part is making it happen. But having said
that, if you've got a good idea and you've thought it through, why
not make it happen? There is NOTHING stopping you. BUT, just one
word of caution. Well, maybe two.
There is no point in trying to sell ice creams in Antarctica. No one wants them. It's too cold. Ice creams don't sell there. Even if they did, no one lives there, so you're not going to sell many. Now, before you think that I've totally lost it, you need to put any idea through the 'ice cream in Antarctica' test. Well, just how do you do that? Well, there is a simple way and the good news is that it is free. Just go here:
https://adwords.google.com/select/KeywordToolExternal
and key in a keyword that describes your idea. Let's use 'worm
farming' as our example. If you customize the columns to show the
CPC (Cost per click) you will quickly get an idea of the market
worth for the most popular keyword in your chosen market sector. At the time of writing, 'worm farming' had an estimated 14,800 searches per month and the top advertisers were paying $0.42 per click. So, all in all, it's not a very big market at all. Not very big and not very lucrative either (how much advertisers are willing to pay is always a good measure of a market's potential). Of course, other keywords will have their own market worth, but this
method will give you a very quick glimpse as to whether your idea is worth pursuing. Let's take one more quick example, to demonstrate the point. Let's take 'car hire mallorca'. 27,000 searches for around $9.00 per click. Now, there's a lucrative market if I have ever seen one. It's a pretty small island too. It
looks to me like there's a starving crowd, just waiting to be fed. That's the place to set up your hamburger stand. Not in Antarctica.
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