Please check out our extensive self-help library in the member's area. Lots more content there. Free trial!
We can help! Please check out our extensive self-help library in the member's area. You can also register for your free stress management report here. We'd also like to recommend our range of stress-busting products. Jill is also available for 1-to-1 online therapy if you'd prefer to speak to a very experienced therapist face to face.
Please check out our extensive self-help library in the member's area. Lots more content there. Free trial!
We can help! Please check out our extensive self-help library in the member's area. You can also register for your free stress management report here. We'd also like to recommend our range of stress-busting products. Jill is also available for 1-to-1 online therapy if you'd prefer to speak to a very experienced therapist face to face.
Please check out our extensive self-help library in the member's area. Lots more content there. Free trial!
We can help! Please check out our extensive self-help library in the member's area. You can also register for your free stress management report here. We'd also like to recommend our range of stress-busting products. Jill is also available for 1-to-1 online therapy if you'd prefer to speak to a very experienced therapist face to face.
5 Ways Of Becoming A Yes Person
Life can sometimes feel deterministic and limiting. Yet, most times, the fault is entirely our own. We place limits and boundaries for ourselves that we never bother to step out of our comfort zone. Thus, we feel trapped in a cycle of pretty mundane things, menial routines. We have learned to let the word "NO" truncate our dreams. We say NO to a lot of things that we become trapped in the same prison throughout our lives.
There is however exhilarating freedom in becoming a YES person. When we talk about a YES person, we do not mean becoming a cowering, eager-to-please-the-others person who agrees to everything just because he wants to avoid confrontation. A YES person, in our context, is that person who is bold and daring enough to embrace life and opportunities. In other words, a person who is willing to enjoy a meaningful, fulfilling life.
It is not very easy crossing the border from being a NO person to being a fearless and dauntless YES person. It takes some practice and courage. Let us then explore how one can be able to turn their lives around and start fully embracing the gift of life.
1. Learn to embrace change: do not be afraid of it
We enjoy the comfort of the familiar. Most people take refuge in routine. A world of routine is easily defined. But routine is usually an enemy of progress. For us to fully enjoy the full spectrum of what life has to offer, we have to learn to embrace change. Do not be afraid of new things. Say YES to change. Fear of failure or the unknown is what drives many people to say NO when opportunities and adventures are presented to them. If you are to be a YES person, if you are to fully discover your potential, calling and what life has to offer, you have to get rid of the fear of new things. Remember, the most awesome of things usually lies just beyond your comfort zone.
2. Be positive
Some of us have mastered the art of brooding. We always contemplate and dwell on the worst-case scenario. Our lives are haunted by all the bad things that can happen. In the end, most people are trapped in the prisons of their minds. It is really hard for a negative person to become a YES person for they are scared of all the cascading vicissitudes that can result from a certain venture. They can never see the good side of things so they are trapped in stasis. Be positive. See the good in the ventures and adventures you are going to partake. Be it love, or a job offer, just see what learning opportunities and memories you will create. Being positive is a key element of becoming a yes person.
3. Stop giving excuses. Do not procrastinate
Procrastination and excuses are the usual euphemisms of saying NO. We tend to hide behind justifications and excuses. In the end, most people never really get to have anything done because they convince themselves they have plausible reasons to not do certain things. A YES person does not need to hide behind excuses. They never procrastinate and they are eager to jump into action. So, starting today, why don't you begin to shun the habit of hiding behind far-fetched excuses? When opportunity knocks and you are unsure, say YES. This will open doors to a magical life.
4. Be curious
A YES person is usually driven by curiosity. Those who are not curious never get the urge to explore other narratives and opportunities. The world around us is full of things you do not know and things you have not yet experienced. Make it your aim to let curiosity pull you to explore things that you have not yet seen or experienced. Never seize to grow and learn, no matter how old you are. As the writer, Tolkien, once said, "Still around the corner, there may wait for a new road or a secret gate." Let this drive you to be always on the lookout for more things to say YES to.
5. Start with the little things
There are those who, before taking a swim, want to dip the toe first to test the temperature of the waters. And some more daring ones just dive. If you are the former, start by saying YES to small things: baby steps, as we call them. Learn to embolden yourself with each YES you pronounce. With time, you will see how liberating and exhilarating it is to embrace the new things and opportunities that come your way. Start today. Say YES to that thing that you have been putting off. Take that step towards that engagement you have not been sure of. The road to becoming a YES person is made of these small little steps.
So, do not be scared. Learn to embrace that giddy feeling that comes from venturing into the uncharted. Do not let fear and excuses hold you back. Being a yes person will help you attain a very deeper level of fulfillment in life. Do not hesitate. Just say YES!
5 Ways A Yes Attitude Can Influence The People Around You
Becoming a yes person greatly changes your life. As you learn more, enjoy more, and engage more; you start to live your life to the fullest. As human beings, we do not live in a vacuum: whatever we do affects or influences others in many ways. When we get to practice the yes mentality lifestyle, not only do we feel the changes in our life, but others tend to notice also. This tends to influence them in various aspects too. Let us check how the power of yes affects those around us who get to witness our changes and lifestyle approach.
1. They feel inspired by your vitality and positivity
It takes some optimism and vitality to be a yes person. People who adopt the yes lifestyle generally develop a vibrant and magnetic personality. They feel their lives are now fuller and fulfilling and thus they tend to be aglow. This attracts others and inspires them to be more active in life. They will be eager to work around you and to be a part of your project as the energy you show is infectious. This all helps to develop solid and meaningful relationships with others, either at work or in the family. People find it easier and relaxing to be around those who seem at peace with themselves. We are more endearing when we are optimistic.
2. People develop confidence in you
Having a yes attitude means you become the person who delivers when it comes to things you have promised. You are generally active and you follow projects right to their fruition. As people around you notice how much you can walk the walk, they see you as a reliable and dependable associate. They develop some deep confidence in you and thus they bring more projects to you. This in turn opens up many opportunities for you, and many other people will thus be influenced by your manner of doing things. As the circle of people who have developed confidence in you grows, your positive influence gets to affect many people's lives.
3. Others will view you as an interesting person
A life of yes is a life of many interesting adventures and experiences. It is a life of personal growth and fulfillment. This means people will find you very much interesting to talk to as your field of knowledge is vast and rich. You will become like a renaissance man, a person of wisdom, and deep insights. The self-confidence that comes with the experience you have will make you eloquent and astute in your speech. People will generally come to you for advice and help. They will be more inclined to listen to you and seek you out at gatherings and social events. This, in turn, helps you grow even more when it comes to your social life. And your life becomes more fulfilling.
4. People will look up to you as a leader
People generally want a competent, apt, confident, and wise leader. These are the qualities that usually manifest themselves when you gain more experience. As a person who grabs opportunities and who is eager to learn, one who adapts the yes philosophy in life is likely to be able to rise up the ranks. They are usually sought after to become leaders and counselors in different enterprises, whether business or social interactions. This is because their confidence, skills, and knowledge – horned through many activities and adventures – make them stand out as exceptional beings. And thus other learn to see you as a leader and exemplary peer.
5. You influence them to adopt the yes attitude too
People always look for good examples to follow. They want good models in life. When others get to see how much you have progressed in personal growth, they too will feel inspired to tread in your footprints. Your diligent work and efficacy will be the template of what they too can achieve in life if they dare enough to start saying yes. It is usually the actions that we carry out and how we hold ourselves that influence others more than the things we say.
In conclusion, remember that every action you take can be witnessed by others. Even the subtlest of changes, things that we barely notice ourselves, can have a huge impact on others' decisions and actions. Yet do not do things in order to be noticed by others. Walk your mile with honest determination, say yes to opportunities, and do not fall into the trap of pleasing others. The works we do and the personal growth that results from the ventures we take will all be made manifest in time. And you will see how much others will be influenced by these small steps you are taking.
Many people have seen an increase in their ability to focus when tasks are paired with music. Though music tastes vary greatly from person to person, there has been some consensus drawn as to what genres are the most beneficial for staying on task—from there, it is up to you to decide what artists are best.
The most prominent agreement is that music without lyrics is best for concentration. Depending on the task, soothing classical music, electronic music, and nonintrusive calming music can do a great deal for your ability to focus.
Time and time again, classical music has been used as background noise to increase cognitive functioning. This is evidenced by the “Mozart Effect” study:
Three participants were given the same test
One listened to Mozart, one to relaxation music, and another in silence
The one listening to Mozart outperformed the others
This is not applicable for every classical piece, however. Those with a powerful score can be counterproductive. Most of Mozart’s music is appropriate for improving focus, but if you are looking for something long-term you can always play Vivaldi’s Four Seasons—the full thing is about two hours long!
This type of music is best for repetitive or routine tasks. A fast-paced tempo keeps energy and motivation levels high, while a more ambient sound is less obtrusive and good for problem-solving. The key is to find something that will elevate your mood and energy without being a distraction.
For upbeat electronic music, Avicii is a good choice because he has consistently fast-paced rhythms, minimal lyrics, and can block out background noise.
For a more ambient sound, deadmau5 has the same minimalistic lyrics and background noise blockage, but the beats are not as fast.
This type of music may or may not have lyrics, but if they do exist, they are very nonintrusive. This genre is a sufficient middle ground between classical and ambient electronic music. It is great for:
Studying
Note-taking
Responding to emails
Top personal recommendations for this genre are Múm and Beat Connection, though any experimental music group would work just as well—just make sure that the rhythm and lyrics aren’t too distracting.
Because music choices are based on personal taste, everyone has their preferred artists or playlists that they use when trying to focus. Since these choices are so varied, the main takeaway that has been observed is that the genre of music is more important than the individual artist. Three of the top genres for focus are classical, electronic, and nonintrusive calming music that have minimal lyrics. Top personal recommendations for each are Vivaldi’s Four Seasons, deadmau5, and Múm, respectively.
Two fabulous packages, available to help you improve your focus...
Download your free report here
