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Symptoms Of Depression: When To Get Help

Symptoms Of Depression: When To Get Help

Sadness, loneliness, and occasional depression are experienced by everyone at some point in their lives. Feeling sad or depressed can occur as a result of a break-up, work stress, financial problems, general struggles of life and is a normal reaction to grief and loss. These feelings come and go, and typically, there is a source or reason for the depression that we can identify. Conversely, when a low mood and certain accompanying symptoms become the norm, and last for more than two weeks, it may be indicative of clinical depression.

A diagnosis of depression requires that there be several persistent symptoms along with a low mood that are present for at least two weeks. Not everyone will experience every symptom; some may have a few, while others will have many. The symptoms can be severe or mild and can vary based on the stage of depression.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, symptoms of depression include

Feeling sad, empty, or anxious

Ongoing aches and pains, digestive problems, and headaches that don’t ease with treatment and have no known cause

Appetite loss or eating too much, including a 5% bodyweight loss or gain over a month’s time

Suicide attempts or thoughts of suicide

Anger, irritability, short temperedness and everything and everyone getting on your nerves

Loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed, even sex

Restlessness and irritability

Insomnia or excessive sleeping

Feelings of pessimism and hopelessness

Feelings of helplessness, worthlessness, or guilt

Fatigue and significant loss of energy

Restlessness and restless behavior such as the inability to sit still

Problems concentrating, making decisions, or remembering details

If you suspect that you have depression, it is time to seek medical help. Depression is certainly treatable and doctors have various options at their disposal. If left untreated, depression may get worse, and can last for several months or years to cause major suffering, a reduced quality of life, and may even lead to suicide. More than 10% of people with depression commit suicide.

There are various mental health screenings to diagnose depression and the type of depression you may have. Typically, depression is treated with psychotherapy or antidepressant medications and often both avenues may need to be utilized for successful treatment outcomes.

If you suspect you have depression, don’t wait, see your doctor today!

See Past The Hardship When Going Through Hard Times



See Past The Hardship When Going Through Hard Times

When you are going through a hardship, it can be difficult to be able to see, much less think, of something beyond your current predicament. But if you are going to overcome hard times, you must learn to see past your hardship. Although this may sound difficult, there are a number of things you can do to help yourself see past your current situation.

Think About Situations You’ve Conquered Before

Chances are, this isn’t your first hardship, so even though it may seem counterproductive, look back at your past hardships. Remember how you got through them. Are there things there which you can use to help you get through your current hardship? Even if there’s not, just reminding yourself that you are strong, and have conquered difficult things in the past, can really help you to see past your current hardship.

Write Through Your Emotions

Journaling can often be looked down upon in society. But there is no reason for this as journaling can be a very powerful tool in a number of situations, and seeing past hardship is one of them. For best results, you should spend time in your journal every day. You can simply jot down your feelings, goals, and ideas of how to work past your current hardship—whatever you want basically. The purpose of a journal is just to keep the negative emotions from building up within you and helping you find a way around your current situation.

Remove Yourself From The Situation

Sometimes, when you are in the middle of a crisis, you may not be seeing clearly enough to find a resolution. It will help you significantly if you take a step back from the problem, take a deep breath, then try solving the problem another way. Depending on the gravity of your situation, this step back could be longer than just a few minutes.

For example, if you are fighting with a spouse or loved one, it may be a good idea to take a day or two apart and try to see the situation more rationally after the emotions have dispersed.

Surround Yourself With Your Network

You are not alone. No matter what you are facing, someone will be there to support you. Consult friends and family, or if the situation involves them, seek our professional help such as a support group or therapist. Once you know you aren’t alone the hardship won’t seem so difficult to conquer.

Accept What Has Happened And Work Towards Moving On

This is the hardest part, but in order to work past hardship, you need to accept that the past is just that, the past, and begin working towards your new future. This means you need to set new goals for yourself (or re-vitalize any goals you may have set aside during your hardship).

This may seem difficult. But aim to conquer things one day at a time. If you need to, break down your goals into very small, manageable steps. So maybe the first day of your new goal is just getting out of bed before noon. Whatever it is, start to move towards it and leave your past behind.

Seeing past a hardship in your life can seem like an entirely impossible task. But whatever you are facing, it will pass. In the meantime, learn to see past your hardship by thinking about your past victories, writing through your emotions, and spending time with your loved ones. Then, it’s time to take a deep breath, take a step forward, and move towards your new future, leaving the past behind you where it belongs.


How Self-Discipline Benefits You at Work and When You Study

How Self-Discipline Benefits You at Work and When You Study

Out of everything you learned as a kid growing up, self-discipline is probably one of the most
vital skills. If you have learned this lesson, you’ll reap the benefits your entire life by reaching
for and meeting your goals more easily. Plus, you will be living your life at full blast because
you won’t have as much stress.

1. You Won’t Be Impulsive – When you are able to control your own impulses, you
tend to make much better decisions because you’re willing to stop and think before doing so.
That means you’ll have fewer things to be sorry about at work or school. You won’t skip
studying to go out and party; you won’t quit working on a project to hang out with friends;
and you will get things done because you won’t create unneeded drama caused by

2. You Know Your Priorities – A self-disciplined person is very aware of the priorities
they have each day. They are prepared and look over everything in plenty of time to arrange
their day to meet those priorities.

3. You Will Meet Your Obligations – Let’s be clear. Meeting obligations feels good.
It’s not a downer or a drag on your life. When you follow through and do something at work
or school (or life) that is important, it feels good, and you want to do it again.

4. Reduces Procrastination – Procrastination is really a symptom of a larger problem
- usually a lack of confidence in skills, imposter syndrome, or fear of success. When you have
self-discipline, you tend to make a schedule that doesn’t consider your mood or anything but
getting it done and done right.

5. You Don’t Need Passion to Finish Projects – One of the biggest myths of life
is that you should work or do things when you feel like it. When the passion strikes is the time
to work according to many. However, this is not a good plan. You’re not going to feel passion
every single day. When you have self-discipline, you tend to get it done regardless of your
thoughts and feelings.

6. You’ll Be Much Healthier – Due to not eating everything you see, not avoiding
exercise, and working hard instead of avoiding work (which is actually stressful), you’re going
to be much healthier. You’ll feel better physically and mentally because you’re making better

7. You Have Better Relationships – When you are not just saying whatever comes
to your mind, and when you’re not selfish but are there for your friends and family, you’re
going to have better relationships. People know they can count on you.

8. You’ll Sleep Better – When you get up at a normal time each day, go to bed at a
normal time each night, and eat right most days - as well as do what you say you’ll do - you’ll
probably sleep a lot better every night.

9. You’ll Feel Less Guilt – When you follow through in life - whether it’s something you
promised to yourself or someone else, you feel less guilt. You won’t have any reason to feel
guilty due to your good choices.

When you have self-discipline, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t a fun person or that you can't
be spontaneous. It simply means that you are reliant on yourself, trust yourself, and show this
by doing what you promise yourself and others that you will do.

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Saying YES Even When You Do Not Know The Outcome

Saying ‘Yes’ Even When You Do Not Know The Outcome
Life is not just black and white. It has its complications and things do not always go as planned. As we start our journey towards our goals and live our lives daily, we are not sure of what the result will be and what will happen next. Fear creeps in but, is that reason enough to say ‘no’ to some things and play it safe? In life we are faced with so much risk and most of what we do involves taking chances. Nothing is certain.
Nowadays, just leaving the house for a walk, falling in love, eating and more has become risky. You can innocently buy food at your grocery shops only to discover when you are hospitalized that it was infected, or go out for a walk only to fall victim to abductors, or fall in love only to realize later that you do not know the person the way you thought you did or that they lied about who they really are. But do we then stop living because of that? Certainly not! You do not have full control over the outcomes of your life but you are responsible for letting opportunities pass you by through choosing inaction where you could have given it a try. The biggest risk you can ever take is choosing to not try.
Although things can be that bad, there are still good things happening all around us. All we need to do is to keep the hope for a good life alive and stay focused on our purpose. We also need to keep our mindset on the positives rather than negatives else we will lose all of what we would have enjoyed to fear and pessimism. No matter what happens, just say ‘yes’ and keep moving forward.
Try to think more about the possible positive outcomes and take a chance going forward rather than backward. As you win and lose, you eventually unlock new doors and expose yourself to more possibilities. It is better to fail while moving than complaining while you remain in the same position. Trying allows us to learn about the world around us and takes us on a journey to self-discovery. Once we get to know our strengths and weaknesses that are pushing us towards or keeping us from reaching our goals, we know what we need to do to improve.

What happens when you say ‘yes’ even when you do not know the outcome?
You stand up against our fears – when we learn to say yes in uncertain situations, fear slowly loses its hold on us. Thus, we get to understand that some things are not as bad as our fear can make us believe which helps us face future challenges boldly. You overcome the fear of failure.
You face failure and learn how to deal with it – learning how to deal with failure is necessary for everyone especially those who desire a quality of life beyond the ordinary. Besides helping us learn to persevere, facing fears plays a big role in boosting our confidence and making us unstoppable. It is also said that a calm sea does not make a smooth sailor and that it is not failure if you learn from it. As you say ‘yes’ and allow yourself to face failure, you identify strengths and weaknesses in your strategies which can help you improve your approach to reaching your goals. You know what you lost and how you lost it which can help you with your future calculations. A comfortable life of avoiding risks does not allow you to learn much.
You increase your chances of success – as you take risks, you stand a chance of discovering more and new opportunities that are not obvious or worth taking to those who choose to give way to fear. The fact that you are able to confront your fears makes you stand out and puts you in position others are allowing their fear to keep them from reaching. Also, as you keep saying yes you enter into a zone that has less competition than the previous because people are less willing to take risks. Success does not often compromise to meet us at our level of comfort, we pursue it and that means we should be willing to find our way around all obstacles, uncertainty included. Inaction leads nowhere.
You build your mental strength – as you walk the fearsome path and get to the other side, anything you left behind can no longer have a strain on you mentally. You look forward to new and bigger challenges which to you start to seem minor than they did before you faced the previous ones. You learn to remain sane amid challenging situations as you get used to dealing with uncertainty. You start to believe that if you did it in the past you have it in you to win again.
There is always something to gain – unlike when you just sit and do nothing due to fear of the unknown, saying yes takes you a step ahead always. If you do not gain what you intended to get, you are at least a step away from where you were previously and you get to learn and explore.